Things have changed a lot for our family of 5. Three months ago we moved onto a small farm, not far from where we used to live, but still a big change.
I still can’t believe how much more peaceful it is here, and I’ve found a new quietness in my spirit. There are so many distractions in the world, some are unavoidable, but as an easily distracted person (and self-confessed ‘project queen’), it’s good for me to simplify my life and focus on what is really important.
Time goes by so quickly, and I’m trying to heed the words of those who have gone before me, “life is short”, “they grow up so fast” and “treasure everyday”. We can easily brush off this wisdom from others and justify our busyness, but is it really true? Do we really need to be doing all the things that we do?
This question has certainly been one that I’ve been meditating on recently, and one that I am still answering when each new decision comes up. There’s something about a quieter life that helps you to stop, listen and feel more deeply, as though the noise around you is muted, and the voices that are important come to the foreground. For me the most important voice is that of God. Hearing the Spirit and His direction is the anchor on which everything else is tethered to. He makes all the other decisions easier, and it is He who knows me best and what is best for me.
After this it’s my husband, my children and my close family and friends, and when you think about it, everyone else’s noise doesn’t really matter. Now does that mean that I don’t care about the things going on around me? No. But it does mean that my decisions are not (well… should not be) determined by the outside world.
It feels like this is such a foreign message in the fast paced ‘social’ life that we live in. But is it really a social life? Or are we more disconnected than ever?
Living in this rural setting it can be easy to get isolated, and comfortable in our little world, so connecting with others and building community takes purpose and action. But I find that the more I disconnect from the digital world and gather with the community around me, face to face, sharing hearts and stories, I build deeper connections and that sense that we are not alone and are built for relationship is renewed.
So whilst the trees are changing colour, the gardens are slowing down and the nights are getting cooler, I’m going to continue to reflect on these questions, about my purpose and why He has put me here. Not being swayed like the breeze to the next big thing, or what I ‘feel’ like I ‘should’ be doing, but being content in the now and not taking it for granted. To love those around me well, and not let them be second to ‘my’ plans.
My prayer is for you too, to find peace where-ever you are, city or country, near or far, single or with a house-full.